Not only have I picked up dates doing it but I've helped others do it as well. To think that a restaurant waitress/waiter/bartender treats their job as a 'professional space' is backwards. You're likely in a diner-esque restaurant or coffee/pizza place, not a high end where you're talking to some chef de cuisine. More often than not it's a job no one really gives a damn about. They're students or individuals who wouldn't mind a career change. They aren't in that mindset.
You definitely have to ask for their number though, and after significant conversation. Leaving it is just creepy and they likely have to move too fast to pocket your number. You can't expect a bunch of quick touchpoints and smiles to deliver a result. Go get there's and they'll know if you're interested. If they say no, there's no real loss.
Last time it happened I helped a third wheel get a bartender's number. We had a longer three way convo at the bar and after probing and talking her up, I bled away and she told him "hey I don't want to sound creepy, but can I get your number?". Nailed it. Guy was a total douche and they didn't even go on a date, but she got the number and was able to actually get to know him.
You definitely have to ask for their number though, and after significant conversation. Leaving it is just creepy and they likely have to move too fast to pocket your number. You can't expect a bunch of quick touchpoints and smiles to deliver a result. Go get there's and they'll know if you're interested. If they say no, there's no real loss.
Last time it happened I helped a third wheel get a bartender's number. We had a longer three way convo at the bar and after probing and talking her up, I bled away and she told him "hey I don't want to sound creepy, but can I get your number?". Nailed it. Guy was a total douche and they didn't even go on a date, but she got the number and was able to actually get to know him.
Edited by InRomoWeTrust on May 30, 2014 09:57:30






























